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What is kokoro?

In Japanese sometimes it is hard to translate words to English, some won’t translate and we have no equivalent for them. Some will translate, but either sound ridiculous in English, or just plain don’t make sense, or sometimes they translate but the meaning is not there, such is kokoro.


An understanding of what kokoro means can improve your scenes and help in understanding Japanese culture.

So what does kokoro mean? If you have ever taken martial arts you may have heard “Shin, Gi, Tai”, “Shin – kokoro, Gi – Technique, Tai – Body “. Usually when we translate the first symbol it gets translated as “Mind”, it’s not wrong …… but it’s more than that or its not ‘only that’

Kokoro originally means heart. But not ‘the heart’.  Here I’m going to quote from a Kendo instructor.

Yes, in means mind. But as I said, it is not only “mind”. The mind is psychological and it includes thoughts as well.

It originally means heart. If you hear “the hearts of the city”, what do you think it means? Yes, in means “the center of the city”. The heart is very important in our body. It is the center of our body in a sense that if the heart stops we die.

We have the word “brain dead”. What is it? The brain is dead but people are still alive. I am not going to get into an argument on whether or not one is considered as dead/alive if the brain is dead. What I meant is even if their brain is dead, they’re still breathing.

But if your heart stops, we don’t call it “heart dead”. We call it “dead”. There is why it is very important to relate kokoro to our body. They are inseparable.

“…….We are talking about our emotions/feelings.


I am sure in kendo training you are told to give everything you have once, twice or more. What do you think it means? Do they give their physical strength that they have?

Now why do you think we shout before, during and after our strike? We are trying to encourage ourselves, trying to charge ourselves up so we can bravely confront our opponent standing right in front of us. We need really a strong heart, i.e. fighting spirit. And also I would like to add soul here.

Kokoro are mindemotionsfeelingsspirit and soul. I must add mentality as well. And if you know Japanese, you may think there are different terms for each word. Yes, it is true we have different Japanese terms for each word.

The term, kokoro, can have various meanings depending on how we use it. For example, when I say, “your kokoro is dirty”, what do you think it means? Does it make sense if I say your mind is dirty? It means you are selfish and do not think about others and apply very dirty tricks to gain whatever you want.

What do you think it means if I tell you to keep your kokoro stable? It means “stay focused and calm”.

  • “Strong kokoro” means “strong mentality”.
  • “Kokoro is weak” means your mental strength is weak. 
  • When your kokoro dances, you are excited.
  • When you change your kokoro, it is very close to “changing your mind”, which means you are changing your thoughts.
  • Put your kokoro in something means you put your soul, feelings and thoughts in it.
  • Stop fighting because you kokoro is snapped in half, it means you’ve lost your fighting spirit.

I think I gave you enough information about how the Japanese uses the term, kokoro. And I hope these examples help you to understand the concept of kokoro.

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Ok so, let’s take this in to the context of rope.

We tie each other. Is that the ultimate goal?

Well for some maybe, just trying to get that one picture that will make them go K&P, or seeing how may rope “scenes” they can do in one night, or how many people they can have line up to tie with them.

The ultimate goal for me is kokoro, here is what that looks like and why it is the second tenant of #DerpNawa. Kokoro is connection, kokoro is yourself. Yeah …. You …. Up until this very moment you have been alive, and hopefully will continue to be. You have a lot of experiences, good, bad , neutral , exciting, terrifying, joyful, sad, and all of the other emotions that we have wrapped up in this sack of meat we walk around in, you have had experiences in rope as well …..All those experiences what do they culminate in?

You. Your spirit. Here. Now. That is kokoro.

When I tie, I try to reach out with the best of myself, the best that I have, all of it you know , let the Chi flow …… knock the other persons socks off …. Let it wow them, let them feel it, open yourself. Like the conversation metaphor that Barkas put forward that I happen to strongly subscribe to. This is my part of the conversation, my heart , my spirit, my mind, I’m coming at the other person with the best I have, showing them my humanity, my experiences, my personality, my characteristics, laying myself bare, and receiving the same in return. (Hopefully) that is kokoro; that is connection. That is the woo-woo I subscribe to.


Sometimes rope is more like a fight than a conversation, like a kendo fight, Sensei tells me that his sensei would sometimes describe rope in the martial arts term Shoubu, which describes the moment where all is won, or lost, the deciding moment.

He also insists the rope is a conversation and as with any conversation, there can sometimes be a winner and a loser, sometimes during the discussion after a lesson he will pinpoint the exact moment I lost, I let the other persons “kokoro strike” me and take my center, my focus, my intent. And the “battle/conversation” is lost.


Yeah ….. Sometimes …… sometimes Giggles kicks my ass ……..


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The Rope Type Sideways Stare

Some thoughts on rope types.

I remember my very first rope kit.  The stock &  real estate markets had just tumbled,  I had just been laid off,  and I was broke.

After my first weekend in a public dungeon talking with people in the community,  leaning some safety,  and practicing a few ties with some rope someone let me borrow,  I was super excited to get my own.

I wanted the best and as much of it as I could get,  because after all,  having more rope means you can do more things with it,  right?

So I began searching online for ‘bondage rope’  and came across a few people selling it,  mostly outside of the US, and damn it was expensive,  $300-$400 for 8 pieces plus international shipping.  Well shit,  that’s wasn’t going to work.  So I started looking for other options.  What I found was cotton rope. Awesome!  They sell that at Wal-Mart,  and off I went.  I came back with a $6 spool of cotton clothes line.  Yep,  my first ‘rope kit’.

It’s been more than a hand full of years since I wore that cloths line out and my journey has taken many twists since then.

From that cotton clothes line,  I have used hemp,  nylon,  paracord,  synthetic natural fibers, silk scarves,  neck ties, shoe strings and I’ve heard of and seen people use fishing line.



Personally,  I love the weight and feel of Jute in my hand when I tie,  Giggles likes the feel of it on her skin more than anything else we have used,  so that’s what we stick with.

I have noticed more and more,  people who use rope other than Jute,  are sometimes (not always)  looked at sideways,  if it’s hemp,  nylon,  or cotton.  When  I attend classes or intensive,  I see the almost palpable under eyebrow stares.  ‘What are they thinking bringing (hemp,  nylon,  cotton)  rope to this class?  Don’t they know this is Japanese Bondage,  and that the only right way is with Jute Rope.  Wow’.

Just jute rope huh,  hmm.  Yeah,  don’t get me wrong, I have what I like,  I am in the fortunate position that I make rope,  it’s kind of nice when people buy it, but….  ‘use what you like,  use what your partner likes,  use what you want,  use what makes you happy.’

What does it matter,  Why do people care what type of rope you use,  are you and your partner having fun? ,  yes! Than fuck it.

I say that with one important caveat,  use what makes you happy,  but know the limits &  capabilities of what you like can and can’t do.  Doing only floor work with no attachment points with 25lb breaking strength cotton clothes line?  Cool!  Doing a multiple person suspension from a bridge over a gorge in the middle of the Himalayas?  Not so cool.  Know safety,  use a little common sense,  and go for it! Do what makes you happy!

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Start of the Journey

The start of the Journey


Many people have asked me, ‘what got me started’  in ,  and many of you have heard the story…..

‘You’re going to hang me from the ceiling by my feet’…..

So I won’t bore you guys with all the details again,  but if you are ever ,  just ask and I will be glad to bore you to death 😉

I make reference to a video in that story that I watched afterwards,  WykD_Dave & Clover performance from the London Festival in 2011.

The one that really got all of my ‘juices’  going,  yeah,  that…. That right there ,  I want to be able to do that.

I watched it again today and it made me feel the same way it did almost 8 years ago the first time I saw .  So I thought I would share it with you guys.

WykD_Dave &  Clover –  London Festival of the Art of Japanese Rope Bondage 2011



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A random conversation

A month or so ago I was having a text conversation with someone new to rope about moments, moods, and personal full filament.

Here is a excerpt from the text conversation of course it’s not the whole conversation and I have taken out the names, I just think it’s interesting and could start some conversation:

….. However it’s not ‘the’ or ‘my’ mood that matters, it’s the moment….imagine a scene… There are two people, two moods…. What If one is the sensual suffering and the other is hard, and fast and destructive…. Or vice versa…. Only one person gets fulfilled…. The other is left wanting… Imho the moment should determine the mood and corse, sometimes the moment will be consuming, hard, fast, and sadistic. Sometimes a more sensual tone with softer more loving touch & relaxed mood will make the moment special……..

….. Some days you want to be told and affirmed how amazing, strong, and beautiful you are….. And some days you want to be under boot, called dirty and told that I can smell the juices running down your leg….. It’s all about moments……

/end ramble thought/